I understand where he is coming from, I certainly experience the same things. Not an easy prospect. It reminds me of being back in high school where you had to eat lunch by yourself. Gay men at all ages seem to be obsessed with looks and sex and do not seem to understand the concept of friendship.
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Not all of my current friends approve of this plan! How many guys in their 60s have the exact same attitude? A lot of them! Im 66,and you could be writing about me…. Regarding your comment about bartenders, I find that is not the case at all at the bars I go to. As someone in my 50s, I am much more comfortable going to the bar alone now than I was in my 30s. I know several of the performers and enjoy a good drag show, so I have two choices: Go alone or sit at home alone. Once I got comfortable with my own company, I made several friends, who, in turn, introduce me to their friends.
My circle of gay friends include guys as young as 24 and as well as men my age or older. You got to put yourself out there.
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When we build a culture based upon pervasive and long-term promiscuity, this is where we end up. Healthy relationships of all kinds are starved and made rare. Your best bet is to go to avoid the remaining strongholds of that old dying culture and seek out venues, events and people untainted by its stain.
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I like a lot of the suggestions here. Not everything works right away, in terms of making friends, but the activity itself is still fine. Sometimes a little intense for an introvert like me, but I had to remind myself: One quibble. Become an alcoholic and reelaaax! Going to a bar one day a week hardly makes someone an alcoholic! And yeah, a few of my long-time friends are guys who were ONE time hookups… but we got to talking.
Nothing wrong with that. The Queerty comment about becoming an alcoholic bugged me, too. Good question. My suggestion is to say no if a sexual move is made by the other one, and if the friendship is there, it will survive the sexual rejection. You both have to be sexually repulsed by the other. Sex will never intrude upon the friendship. There are many excellent suggestions here. Many social groups are full of men who came to them simply to make some friends. BTW, it takes no time at all to make acquaintances, but it takes a good deal of time, and work, to develop a friendship.
Yet, when I try to arrange platonic buddy activities, I get really pushy sex offers. Men seem determined to frustrate me at every turn. I only have one legit gay friend and one lesbian friend. So really no gay friends.
I have a lesbian sister, but she live 4 states away. I had one true Gay friend who was like a blood brother to me, but he passed away suddenly and way too young.
They all want to have sex. Then he responded to me one day. Sorry, dude. Most of my close gay friends are guys I have had sex with one time, and only once. And thereafter we became great friends without another word being spoken about having sex — except with other guys. I live right outside of NYC. I was seeing someone recently and he was very well connected with a strong group of friends. I found this incredibly intimidating since he constantly wanted to bring me around to them, whether they be his city friends, local friends, or college friends.
Reading comments and advice has been great. I want that strong group of people. Everyone was pretty sure he was gay, but none of that mattered. I myself was known for sleeping around, and I was in an on-and-off relationship, but never considered myself gay.
Things got wild, and I ended up trashed. Everyone did. My roommate ended up stumbling into my room and landed on my bed. I just laid there and blew it off. He started getting handsy, and I immediately knew where this was going. He told me to relax, and I was pretty horny anyways. He ended up giving me a blowjob, and it was completely mind-blowing. We ended up doing things the rest of the time I lived with him. I eventually reciprocated, but we never did anything aside from oral or masturbation. I don't think it defined my sexuality, because I still identify as straight.
It was a good experience, and I wouldn't change anything. Later that night at his house, we were watching a movie and he started playing with my crotch with his feet, and ended up unzipping my pants. He asked if he could give me a blowjob and I said sure. He did, but I couldn't give one to him because it was too weird for me at the time.
That was my first sexual experience in general, let alone man-on-man experience. I didn't end up having sex with a girl until I was 18, five years after that gay experience. One time I gave him a ride home and he jokingly said, 'I'd offer to blow you but my tits are in the shop. So I unzipped my pants and took my dick out kind of joking, kind of not. He started sucking and I kept driving until we got close to his house and he told me to pull over and I blew my load in his mouth and then he said he was going to eat my ass.
He got out of the car, walked around to the driver's side and opened my door. I got out and leaned onto my car and he ate my ass for a long time. This was on a suburban cul-de-sac he loves puns so maybe that was part of his plan. Anyway it was unreal. It felt so good my legs were shaking.
I kinda came again but there wasn't much and he said, 'You don't have any more for me? I was so nervous to see him at school. He wasn't that drunk though. Nothing like that has happened since. No girl has ever offered to eat my ass.